Forever commending this series for putting on screen what others rarely do — real moments of doubt in a relationship. Doubts in relationships aren’t always about there being another person in the picture or the fear of being left. Doubt isn’t always a, “no,” but can often be a lack of that; silence.
What I love most about this show and this couple the most is that even though they’re established and are grounded in who they are, they still doubt because they’re human. The second thing I love most about this show and couple is that they’re real, and they’re portrayed as if they actually exist in the real world, not some bubble where events just happen to work in their favour.
These women have faced discrimination countless times in their lives. Stef (the blonde) was in a marriage and had a son when she found out she was gay. She was separated from her husband when she met Lena, and instead of having an affair, lying and leaving the man, she told him. She told him and her friends and her family that she was, “sorry it took this long to say and accept,” she was apologizing for being afraid.
And still, after over a decade with being with Lena, she still has her doubts. Her doubts stem from her father, who when she was younger sent her away to fix her. Still, to this day he doesn’t approve. And as much as Stef is accepted by her other family and friends in life, her father’s disapproval has tainted her; he’s engrained it so much in her mind that she was actually embarrassed to get married to the love of her life and the mother of her children.
And this scene is so, so beautiful and so, so perfect. In every painful and joyous way possible. Because it’s a crack we rarely get to see, and it happens and most importantly, it’s real.